What’s a salon anyway?

It’s NOT a tavern in the wild west—that’s a saloon.

It can be a place where people get their hair done, but that’s a modern use of the word.

Historically, the dictionary says it’s a regular social gathering of eminent people at the house of woman prominent in high society. It can also be a meeting of intellectuals or other eminent people at the invitation of a celebrity or socialite.

Wikipedia says a salon is “a gathering of people under the roof of an inspiring host, held partly to amuse one another and partly to refine taste and increase their knowledge of the participants through conversation. Salons, commonly associated with French literary and philosophical movements of the 17th and 18th centuries, were carried on until quite recently, in urban settings, among like-minded people.

Salon de Femmes in the Access Consciousness™ world is a world-wide gathering of women interested in creating a different possibility for relationships with men. As seminar leader Gary Douglas describes it, it shows women “how to promise what you are not going to deliver, how to deliver what you are going to deliver, and how to make the man happy that you delivered.”

Is that clear as mud? This series aimed at facilitating women to have a sense of themselves in relationships so that they do not divorce themselves to make the relationship work. It’s also about educating women to be in allowance of men as men—something very different from the approach espoused by other “relationship experts,” even the best-selling ones.

Douglas has a goal as lofty as those historical French salons. He’d only like to change the standard by which people choose their mates.

“I’ve known too many really nice men who are interested in having a relationship and women wouldn’t have anything to do with them because they’re too nice. What? You wouldn’t have a man who’s too nice in your life? Why not?”

Douglas admits that “men tend to be seduced by bitchy women who promise a lot and deliver little. You can be a nice woman and promise a lot and deliver just enough and have a different result. That’s the Salon de Femmes.”

Douglas developed this class for women after watching the success of his Gentleman’s Club class. When he saw the change it created for men and the ability it gave them to have a sense of themselves in relationships, he realized it was required for women as well.

“To have a sense of yourself and be present in relationship needs to be something that is a way one lives, not a way one acts. It’s about being the invitation of the feminine and the invitation of the masculine.”

“I’d like to get as many people as possible out of their fixed points of view about the other sex.” He does not use the word “opposite” to describe the other sex, because the use of that word alone sets up opposition.

There is a warning about participation in this salon, ladies. You might have to give up your judgment of men. He has been stunned by women’s insistence on judging men in previous workshops.

“If you don’t have someone who’s fun to be with and who will bring a little joy into your life, why bother with a relationship?”

Participation in Access Bars™ through Level 1 is required to purchase the recordings of the Salon de Femme series. If you require these pre-requisites you can find a class near you, or subscribe to the download of Gary Douglas facilitating Foundation and Level One from accessconsciousness.com.