Being You

Beyond Need As Real

May 03, 2020

Is there such a thing as going beyond need? We live in a world filled with needs. We have needs. Other people have needs of us. And sometimes, all these needs might leave us feeling yuck. What if there are tools beyond need that take you beyond that yuck?

Are you somebody who tends to go to the wrongness of you when dealing with needy people? Do you often try to fulfil everyone’s needs, leaving you feeling drained and stuck?

Well there is a way out of that! And there are ways to create change in this area.

Here are two things you can do immediately to start changing things:

  1. Acknowledgement – Acknowledge that there is a need present, and that you are having an awareness about it. Acknowledging the needs people have of you or that you have of yourself gets you more present with what is actually going on.

  1. Interesting Point of View – This tool can start to change the intensity you have about something and give you more choice.

You practice this tool by saying (about the situation):

Interesting point of view, I have this point of view. Interesting point of view, they have this point of view. And repeat this. Did you notice what happens? You may have noticed that the “charge” on the situation or the need changes.

What if you can be aware of others’ needs and your needs, not make any of it wrong, and just be aware without a point of view?

For even more information about this conversation of need, please visit Dr Dain Heer’s Kajabi class, “Dealing With Needy People” on his new “You Got This!” Kajabi platform.



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Dechen S S

Jul 25, 2020

Please make me understand – does it mean – that do not help needy people – and that no one is need of anything ? Is the interesting point of view to clear out everyone’s neediness ? and there should be no need at all ? Thank you

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