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Have You Ever Considered Why Not to Use the Word Why?

October 23, 2012

Asking questions is one of the most effective tools of Access Consciousness™. It’s even one of the “10 commandments.” But the question “Why?” is not one we recommend. Have you ever considered why?

Asking the question “why?” has been compared to having a conversation with a 4 year old. “Why is the sky blue?” “Why is the grass green?” “Why?” “Why?” “Why?” Does it ever get you anywhere? Or it is like making a perpetual right turn—if you make it enough times you go in a circle and end up right where you started?

A very common belief behind when using the word why is that we require the answer to that question before we can change. In other words, even if we know that a habit or practice of ours is totally dysfunctional, we cannot change it unless and until we know WHY we are doing it.

Is this actually true? Applying another of the Access Consciousness™ 10 Commandments suggests it is not. If every choice we made were only good for 10 seconds, couldn’t we change what we do as quickly as that? Would it really matter why we had done anything?

We also ask the question “Why?” in trying to understand why others make the choices they make. This is another futile exercise. When people make choices we would never make, we think that if we could figure out why they made them we would somehow understand.

“No,” says Access Consciousness™ founder and best selling author Gary Douglas. This is a great delusion that keeps us stuck. “People choose what they choose because they can, period.” When anyone tells us they made a choice “because,” they are merely telling us the reasons and justifications for their insane choice. It’s a lie. There is no reason for most choices—people choose it cause they chose it cause they could.

When we try to understand why they have chosen their insane choices, we suck ourselves into a trap. To understand anyone, we have to walk into their universe and duplicate it. If we are attempting to understand someone who is making insane choices, we can only duplicate their insanity! Is that really in our best interests?

If creating your life from your own reality rather than from the insane world around you appeals to you, giving up the addiction to the word “why?” would be a great step in that direction. In addition to all the reasons given above, believing there is a why for anything puts us back into this limited reality where everything works from linear cause and effect. Certainly we’ve all been taught that and encouraged to look at it that way, but is it really true? In living your life have you not noticed that events were far more random than you were ever taught to expect?

It makes a mockery of that question “Why?” doesn’t it?

The information in this article is the tiniest sample of the life-changing tools available in Access Consciousness™ Foundation through Level 3. You can find classes and facilitators in 46 countries near you on the website, www.accessconsciousness.com



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Tom Volkar

Nov 16, 2012

Beautifully and expertly explained. I’ve always made agreements with my coaching clients not to go on a fruitless search for why when something isn’t working. I’ve found that even when they find and answer to why that they do not believe themselves and continue to waste time searching.

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Vanzell Johnson

Feb 26, 2016

I love what this it is speaking to Me

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Oct 25, 2016

Good staff meeting material

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