Being You

Would You Be Willing to Be Wrong About Always Being Wrong?

September 04, 2011

What if the only time you’ve actually been wrong in your life is when you thought you were wrong?

How would your life be different if you’d been correct every single other time you thought you’d been wrong? How much could that change everything?

What if everything you’d judged as a wrongness was not a wrongness but actually a strength, albeit one that others coming from “normal society” that this reality’s point of view had judged as wrongness?

Accustomed as you are to being wrong, would you like to hear how it could be right to give up this solid fact of your reality?

We can even be so completely convinced of our wrongness that we become so desperate to be right that we choose to be right about the one thing we know we can be right about—the incontrovertible “fact” that we are wrong. At least we can finally be right about that! How crazy is that?

Would you like to consider another way of looking at things?

First of all, can there be any right and wrong at all without a judgment? Does judgment ever create anything worth having or of value?

Every judgment you have, including the judgment that you are wrong, limits your functioning as the infinite conscious being you really are. Furthermore, each of those judgments firmly holds 25 other judgments in place. It’s the ultimate multi-level marketing plan, and just as likely to lead you to the success you’ve been looking for all your life.

Second, have you noticed how widespread is people’s insistence on being right? Most people would rather die than be wrong! Have you noticed?

The motivation behind this desperation to be right becomes more clear when you consider that whatever people are trying to prove (as in, “I’m right, I AM NOT WRONG”) is actually the opposite of what they believe.

Is it possible that the superior know-it-all you went to school with who was always trying to prove how much they knew—they secretly believed themselves to know-nothing? Similarly, is it possible that the more desperately a family member or work colleague has to prove he’s correct, the more he believes he is, deep down, totally, inescapably, and irrevocably wrong.

If you were to erase that deep conviction that deep down there’s something wrong with you, how much more ease could come into your life? Would having to prove you were right to overcome that deep-as-a-coalmine black pit of wrongness inside of you become a thing of the past? Would a little more freedom and lightness invade your universe?

You could even be more right—that state you have valued more than life itself—by recognizing how the dynamic of the inescapable-wrongness-of-me dominates the thinking of most people you encounter on a daily basis.

Like you, they believe they’re wrong. To overcome this, they are desperately trying to prove they’re right. But can they ever prove this enough to overcome their deep-seated conviction that they’re wrong?

Being aware of this dynamic, having recognized it in others if not yourself, you could actually use this to your advantage. If you no longer believe you’re intrinsically wrong, you no longer have to prove you’re right.

By freeing you from judgment, the willingness to give up having to be right and to be wrong actually increases your awareness. Comically and ironically, this increased awareness actually allows you to actually be correct more often!

Even better, once you no longer have to prove you’re right, you have freedom to be wrong without judgment, in a wonderful way that no one who hasn’t considered this issue has available to them. You can now actually use this willingness to be wrong as a tool to manipulate these addicts to rightness that populate the planet.

For example, you can use the willingness to be wrong to resolve just about any personal conflict that comes up, in a few short sentences. “You’re right. I’m wrong. What can I do to make up for the damage I’ve done?” when said with sincerity can undo a multitude of interpersonal upsets.

You do not even have to be wrong to say this! You just have to be able to say you’re wrong, with sincerity. What you’re doing is actually acknowledging the other person’s complete conviction (born out of the same desperation you had until reading this article) that they are right.

Most times, if you say this three times, the other person will say, “You’re not wrong, dear, you’re just mistaken.” Even people who are aware of this tool can be manipulated by it.

One woman used this on visiting her mother, a born-again Christian who was driving her crazy on her two-week visit. In desperation, she called Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness and best-selling author. “Help! My mother is driving me crazy!” she wailed.

“Tell her ‘You’re right, I’m wrong,’” advised Douglas.
“But I’m not wrong!” the woman protested.

“I didn’t say you were wrong,” countered Douglas. “You just have to say you’re wrong.”

She followed his advice, and when she left her mother’s house a week later, her mother gave her a check for $5000.

There’s no guarantee that you’ll get $5000 for being wrong. But being willing to be wrong (and giving up your desperation to be right) can give you a lot more freedom and awareness. And that could lead to your being correct a lot more of the time! What would that be like?



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Anshul Arun

Apr 30, 2016

It is really helpful to know this aspect. Also how does it work in principle. Thanks a lot

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