Smart Tips for Getting Over Your Problems

May 05, 2015

What if you woke up in the morning and had no problems? What would your life be like?

This is the question I woke up with this morning. What exactly is a “problem,” anyways? It’s a judgment. It’s taking a situation or set of circumstances and labeling it as bad or wrong. The situation itself is not inherently bad or wrong; it’s all in your definition of it. In nature, for instance, fires are considered a normal part of the cycle of life – fires actually help to regenerate the land and assist specific plants and animals to grow. This could be seen as a good thing (positive judgment). But when you live near a forest and there’s a raging fire that threatens your home, we consider that a bad thing (negative judgment). Nature itself doesn’t have a point of view about it either way, we humans are the ones who do. We’re the ones who actually invent judgments and problems. We spend our lives categorizing everything we do or experience in life into two categories, or polarities: good or bad, right or wrong, best or worst, etc.

What invention are you using to create the problems you are choosing?

Do you get that we actually choose and create our problems? How many times have you gotten an intuitive hit that you shouldn’t do something, but you overrode that knowing and chose to do it anyways? How many times has that created a “problem?” What if you took that initial warning sign seriously and chose something different? Would you get a different outcome? Would it still create a “problem?”

Have you ever really acknowledged how potent a creator you are? Your problems are creations. I can be and have been a brilliant creator of crap. In fact, I can create crap of magnitude! Whether it’s crap or brilliance is completely based on my point of view (if you don’t believe me, take a look at what some people call “art”). If I can acknowledge that some challenging problem I now have to deal with (say, financial debt) was actually something that I created (whether I was aware of it or not), then I can empower myself. If I view it as this terrible thing that just “happened” to me, I stay in a state of victimhood, or disempowerment. Choosing to acknowledge that I created the situation helps me to recognize that I have an incredible potency to create as well as to change things. What I’m choosing to create I may not like and may not work for me, but nonetheless I’m a potent mofo. If I can create something like debt on a grand scale, then what if I could create money to the same degree? What would that take? What else is possible here? What do I need to be or do different to get a different result?

What’s right about this that I’m not getting?

What if you looked at your problems as opportunities? What can I learn from this situation? What does this problem show me about me and my capacities? What if I created this problem so I could get the information I require for the next step, to create something else? For example, when you’re learning how to do something new, like driving a car, isn’t doing something “wrong” like pushing the gas pedal instead of the brake just part of learning how to do it correctly? What if there’s nothing wrong with making a mistake, regardless of the outcome?

How much are you using your problems to prove that there’s something wrong with you? That you’re defective somehow, lesser than what you should be? And what exactly is that “should be?” Are you holding yourself up to some gold standard that no one could possibly ever live up to? Who decided that? Your family, school, church, society? Do you get that those standards are totally subjective? They are based on judgment. Take body size. Several hundred years ago, being plump was considered highly attractive (look at a Rubens painting, for example). Nowadays, at least in our country, thin is in. Photos of models made up and airbrushed beyond recognition has become the ideal look. It’s not even real – it’s a total invention. While in other parts of the world, even today, being round in shape is a sign of abundance and desirability. It’s all arbitrary.

Or, on the the flip side of that, are you using your problems to prove that you’re a great problem solver? If you’re doing that and somehow getting some positive sense of self-worth out of it, then guess what you always have to create more of? Problems! What if you would just acknowledge that you’re a brilliant creator and use that capacity to create something that’s fun? What if you didn’t use judgment to determine your value as a person? What if the whole concept of value is an invention?

So….what stupidity (and by this I mean unconsciousness) are you using to create the problems you are choosing? What’s beyond problems? What’s beyond the polarity of judgment? What else is possible here?

And finally, what if everything you’ve decided about you to be a wrongness is actually a strongness? I’ll be asking this and other paradigm-shifting questions starting Tuesday May 5th 10am PT, when I’ll be a guest on Dr. Lisa Cooney’s internet radio show, “Beyond Abuse, Beyond Therapy, Beyond Everything,” talking about anxiety and how to deal with it from a totally different perspective. Check it out here:


What are the infinite possibilities available to you now???

Ciao for now,

Adriana Popescu

* Thanks to Gary Douglas, Dr. Dain Heer and the tools of Access Consciousness®, which inspired the questions asked in this blog.

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