7 tools in 7 days to bring you home to the magic and greatness of you this holiday season!
Standing in an art store looking at the various portraits and paintings, I found myself in the Christmas section of the store. Pictures of Santa Clause, Christmas trees, carolers and…. Families. Perfect families. Sitting around a fireplace with stockings succinctly hung. Or, gathered around the dinner table, smiles on everyone’s face. Opening up presents and everyone actually happy about what they unwrapped, or at least pretending to be so.
A barrage of Christmases past came flooding through my memory. Not much depicted in the paintings matched my experience. From what I recall, the day usually started of ok but by the end, some family members were fighting, some were crying, others were disappointed and all vowed to never attend a family event again – EVER. Home for the holidays? No thank you.
Have you ever noticed how many expectations there are about the holidays? Expectations about gifts, about family, about food, about how everyone is supposed to behave… the list goes on. And, if it doesn’t turn out the way everyone has decided it should, guess what? YOU must be wrong.
So what do we do with the insanity of the season that the endless expectations create? Some of us cut off pieces of ourselves, shrink down to a size that’s acceptable to those around us in an attempt to fit in and go along with the expectations. Others push against it. Resistance in full motion! “No way! I’m not doing any of that and you can’t make me! Bah humbug!” But, with either side of the coin, are you really in choice?
What if something else were possible – for you? No matter what anyone else chooses, what if you could have a holiday season that was fun and easy and light?
Over the next 7 days, we will be looking at pragmatic tools from Access Consciousness® that can assist with creating another possibility around the holidays. One tool a day for 7 days. If you are interested in a holiday season of joy and delight without the exhaustion and the fight, I invite you to come along as we explore and implement tools that can create a new possibility.
Tool #1 – Destroy and uncreate the expectations, projections, judgments, decisions and conclusions that you have about the holidays, about your family, about what families are supposed to be, about what you have to do, about what you can’t do, etc.
What does it mean to “destroy and uncreate”? It means to get rid of the lies and limitations that keep you repeating the same pattern day after day, year after year.
For example, “I can’t wait until the holidays are over! They are so exhausting.” Or, “I HAVE to go to my parent’s house. I don’t have a choice.” Or, “My kids are so insensitive. After all I’ve done for them, you would think they would remember me at this time of the year. What’s the matter with them?” All of these are expectations and conclusions about how things should and shouldn’t be, about what is expected and what is required.
Is it possible, that you, being the powerful creator that you are, are getting exactly what you’ve decided you will get? If you have decided and concluded that your kids are insensitive, can they be any other way? And, if they did actually choose kindness, would you be able to receive it? Or would your conclusions keep you from seeing it? What if it looks different than how you’ve decided it should look?
Science tells us that when we have a conclusion or a judgment about something, our brain only allows information in that matches those conclusions. So, if I have concluded that the holidays are exhausting, guess what information my brain delivers to me? Information that confirms what I have already decided.
So, if our point of view creates our reality, a key to creating a new reality is to destroy and uncreate the expectations, projections, judgments, decisions and conclusions that are locking the current point of view in place.
Here’s how the tool works: All of the, judgments, decisions and expectations, projections conclusions I have about the holidays, destroy and uncreate. Right and wrong, good and bad, POD and POC, all nine, shorts, boys and beyond®. (The last sentence is the Access Clearing Statement®. If you are not familiar with the clearing statement click here.)
Or, if there are particular people that you find challenging, you can use the “destroy and uncreate” tool to change this. Destroy and uncreate your relationship with that person. You might say, “Wait! I don’t want them to go away! Or, I don’t want to hurt them.” That’s not what this does. Remember, you are destroying and uncreating the lies and limitations that keep the same patterns repeating. What’s true and light can never be destroyed. So when you destroy and uncreate a relationship, you are destroying the things that aren’t working, which allows something else to show up.
To use this tool, you would say” I destroy and uncreate my relationship with Person’s Name. Right and wrong, good and bad, POD and POC, all nine, shorts, boys and beyond. Use this on the relationships that are working too and watch it become even greater.
You can also add: All of the, judgments, decisions and expectations, projections and conclusions I have about Person’s Name, destroy and uncreate. Right and wrong, good and bad, POD and POC, all nine, shorts, boys and beyond.
And: All of the, judgments, decisions and expectations, projections and conclusions I have about me with regards to Person’s Name, destroy and uncreate. Right and wrong, good and bad, POD and POC, all nine, shorts, boys and beyond.
As you read these statements, you are clearing away what is locking in your current reality. If you get rid of what’s locking in your current reality, a new reality can show up. What would you like to create?